RULE #3 in LOVE

Rule #3: Moving on might be difficult. It might not be happy, satisfying or easy, but sometime it is for the best.

QUOTE- The only thing constant in the world is change.

For a subsequent few months or days, however you want to look at it, I felt like I settled for a lifestyle to die in. Key word: settle. Yes, it’s true. I was as naive as a child. Hell, I was naive as a homunculus. But like most people, I was born with my eyes closed. I was impercipient of the laws and rules that govern the sentiment called love.

Okay. I’m going to give you some pointers on how to let love go…or rather relationships go. The amount of time it takes to achieve freedom depends on the individual who seeks freedom. Keep in mind from the beginning that total freedom will not be achieved in just a few months. You can’t exercise love you would do a spirit in a human. A part of that person you loved will stick with you for a long time, if not forever.

Here goes:

1. Look him/her in the face and say: It’s over. Don’t walk around confused as to whether you are together or separate.

2. Get a medium sized mirror. It could be your bathroom mirror or bedroom mirror. Any means of seeing your reflection will do. Look at yourself. Imagine a fool’s hat on top of your head.

Take a deep breath and laugh! Seriously, laugh. Everyone’s heard of the saying: It takes more face muscles to frown than to smile. Laugher helps the situation. No, it wont instantly get better, but laughing about it lets you realize that you are not mad at yourself. Try it once a day. Two, three, four, five times a day! It does help you feel better.

3. Spend more time thinking about your future than your past. I know that’s hard to do when you love someone, but you’ve heard this before:

Death is staying in the past or dwelling in one place too long.

When it becomes dangerous to your emotional or physical health, you’ve got to let it go.

4. At the same time you’re thinking about #3 also understand that you can’t just forget about the relationship. Remember it so the mistakes that were made then don’t happen again.

5. Spend time with friends or find a friend to talk to. Oh and please don’t spend every conversation talking about you relationship problems. Your friends are there to listen, comfort and help you move on. Plus it’s kinda selfish to only speak of yourself when with friends. They won’t want to be around you. And if you loose a boy/girl friend and your friends then you’re screwed!

6. Find a hobby. Pick up a book and read, jog, write, dance, act, meditate, just find something to do so you’re not constantly dreaming (or dwelling) in the past.

7. Seven is the number of completion in a lot of areas. Stop thinking another human being completes you. Only God should complete you (or any thing you believe in Religiously).

8. Take a piece of paper. On it write in pencil the name of your ex, underline it and write all the good and bad qualities of your ex. This could take up to 2-10 pages. However many you need.

Ex.

LISA

PMS Caring

Beautiful Nagging

You get the point. Erase all the good qualities. Take the piece of paper and bury it, flush it or burn in.

9. Get another piece of paper and write down future, underline it. On the paper write what you want your next lover to be like. One the back write common flaws in people (men/women). Put that piece of paper up high somewhere.

10. Be patient.

You give and you give

But you never seem to get back in return

What you give

Till your heart ends up with third degree burns

And in the end, you just want to give up on love

But you’re going to get yours.

-Teedra Moses